After the discovery

Whatever has happened, and whichever side of it you are standing on, the weeks that follow a betrayal are their own kind of disorienting. This is a short reflection about where you are right now. It does not evaluate your marriage, it will not tell you what to do, and there is nothing here that decides anything.

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If you are afraid of your partner, or if things have become physically unsafe, that comes before everything else on this page. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is available at 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. If you are in immediate danger, call 911. If you are in crisis, call or text 988.